I was always the why kid. But I hid my questions out of shame. I think all kids should be why kids. The questions I think are great tools for digging to greater truth.
The reality is that we have rules or boundaries for a reason. God loves us so much that he’s placed boundary lines around us to keep us safe. When we ask questions about things, we find more profound truth because he has an answer to everything.
Dig deeper.
What are my values, rules, or boundaries? One Christian principle that I have consistently wrestled with God about is no sex before marriage. Why? What does that look like? Are two really important questions I have to define for myself as a believer. I know that if I don’t, I will easily dismiss the whole thing and miss the beautiful purposes of God’s heart for me for freedom.
Dig deeper.
I want my kids to know that certain things are reserved for deeper intimacy. Not just sex. But there’s a reason we say things like “it’s too soon to say I love you.” Because we know deep in our hearts that we haven’t wrestled on a deep level with the meaning of that word for that individual in our lives.
Trauma is like that. If we go through trauma and don’t expose it and wrestle with what it has done to us, it subconsciously becomes a part of us effecting everything we do. That’s why there’s a process. That’s why people say it takes time to heal. It really does! We turn our pain over like stones in our hands and cast them before the feet of the father never to be picked up again.
The why of everything is so important! We have to know what it is that we need and want and fit it in our value system. We have to know who we are and who we are capable of being. I guess the heart of it all is intention. How intentional are we in the choices we make? How do the things we do effect the people around us?
In a class I recently took at my church I discovered that even though my intentions are good, I can unintentionally hurt myself and other people because of my own anxieties. My fear can cause me distance people, to take too much responsibility for things that aren’t mine to take, and become too engrossed in a relationship without getting my own needs met.
Dig deeper.
What is the fear I’m trying to quell? What is the lie I am believing? Is it a result of unforgiveness in my heart toward someone or myself? How do I proceed?
